Unfortunately some relationships are not built on transparency. Each partner attempts to keep secret from the other the true feelings that reside within. Such dishonesty will soon bring disaster to the relationship. True feelings cannot be concealed indefinitely. Carefully chosen words will eventually give way to another language.
Body language reveals to others how we really feel about them. The facial expression or the actions that arise from true inner attitudes will betray the falsity of untrue words. Greater damage is actually done when there are two different messages. The recipient knows that what is said and what is felt is different.
Recently I noticed this played out in my wife's visits to two different doctors. One doctor was part of a large team in a corporate structure. His "bedside manner" communicated an uncaring attitude. He made my wife and me feel as if our opinion and thoughts were of no importance in her treatment. Then we visited a second doctor who was one of two in a smaller practice. This doctor treated my wife with graciousness, asking her input and showing personal care and concern. My wife's outlook was greatly affected. The first doctor left her discouraged and with feelings of hopelessness regarding the medical issue. The second left her upbeat and hopeful about her medical future.
Whether we realize it or not we all have a second language that speaks much louder and clearer than our primary spoken language. Our body language not only reveals our true person, but also has a significant affect on our relationship with others and on their feelings. Let's be careful what we say today both in our words and our actions and expressions.
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